EPISODE 37: UNDER COVERS -- "NADIA"

What a MASSIVE week! This podcast surpassed 15,000 downloads!!! I managed not to say anything stupid on two other podcasts - Dates and Mates and Sexy As A Mother. My writing on Medium garnered over 20,000 views. I found a new, amazing remote-controlled vibrator (affiliate link) that you need right now to make your life a lot more fun.

What a MASSIVE week!

This podcast surpassed 15,000 downloads!!!

I managed not to say anything stupid on two other podcasts - Dates and Mates and Sexy As A Mother.

My writing on Medium garnered over 20,000 views.

I found a new, amazing remote-controlled vibrator (affiliate link) that you need right now to make your life a lot more fun.

Plus, I colored my own hair and managed not to ruin anything in the process.

And if that’s not enough, we’re back with an all-new episode of Under Covers!!!!

I think I can safely say, I won this week.

Now, on to today’s episode.

NADIA

(That’s not her real name).

Just like the previous Under Covers conversations, there’s a lot I could share with you about Nadia in advance, but the truth is, I knew absolutely nothing about her when I started this interview. I didn’t know her age, her job, her socioeconomic status, her religious background, where she lived, nothing. And that was 100% deliberate because these are bits of information we all use to subtly judge and categorize each other in advance. I wanted all of that off the table because going into an interview blind is a great way for me to experience these conversations exactly like you will.

I never knew what her answers were going to be.

This is all about hearing other women’s stories with no bias whatsoever, and realizing that there may be aspects of another woman’s vastly different life that actually resonates with your own. Suddenly, you’re not so alone anymore. Suddenly things make a little more sense. Maybe by hearing these stories, you can move forward with the knowledge that we’re all in this together and the best way for all of us to start healing is to start sharing our differences with each other.

With no judgment.

So I will keep this brief.

All you need to know in advance is that Nadia is 31, married and polyamorous.

That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

MEMORABLE QUOTES

“There was a decade of my life where I was like, I’m only going to have sex with you if you excite me tremendously. So that was like a lot of really great sex for a while.”

“I’ve always felt constrained by the rules of monogamy.”

“The thing with rules is that whenever a rule is set, people want to break it.”

“I’m always loving multiple people. That’s a thing that is very real for me.”

“I think a lot of people often don’t understand that this kind of arrangement actually requires way more trust. Way more communication.”

“Most marriages do end and I’m much more hopeful for the longevity of my partnership now that we are open and talking about these things.”