THE LOWDOWN ON THE DOWN LOW
There are lots and lots of men. Straight men who are often married with children. Navy SEALs, football players, construction workers, lawyers, doctors, mechanics, factory workers — you name it. Just regular guys…who happen to prefer to have sex with other guys.
Are they gay?
Not if you ask them.
Sexual identity is complex. On this show I speak with The Straight Guy Whisperer, a gay man whose sexual partners are almost exclusively straight, married men.
We talk about why these men reach out to him, what they’re really looking for, and the surprising reasons a gay man can be the safest partner for a straight guy.
The Straight Guy Whisperer might sound familiar to my regular listeners. He’s the expert in my SECOND MOST POPULAR EPISODE OF ALL TIME: Expert BlowJob Tips From A Gay Man. This guy knows his way around another man and the fact that he almost exclusively hooks up with straight guys should tell you that he understands their pleasure on a level many women do not.
At least not yet, anyway.
Are these straight guys closet homosexuals or bisexual? Can you exclusively have sex with someone of the same sex but still be 100% straight? A lot of that has to do with how you personally identify and what that really means. After all, at its core, your sexual identity is a label that you use to help others categorize you.
As Toni Morrison famously said, “Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined.”