EPISODE 16: SEXY AS A MOTHER -- WITH BROOKE CHRISTIAN
“It’s such a crap deal that when we push a kid out, suddenly we’re not allowed to be sexy anymore.”
These words belong to Brooke Christian: Blogger, Truth Teller and Sex Toy Concierge for the Mommy Set.
The founder of FlirtyGirlGuide.com, how Brooke became the orgasm guru for thousands of desperate moms is an incredible story that all begins with a cock ring at Gymboree.
Okay, the cock ring in question did not make an actual appearance at Gymboree. That would be weird. But after buying a vibrating cock ring to enjoy with her husband and completely getting her mojo back, Brooke told all of her mom friends about this amazing sex toy and, naturally, they all wanted one, too. From there, Brooke found her following and built a sex toy empire.
But from one mother to another, Brooke’s company is about so much more than shilling sex toys and lube. It’s about giving mothers a trusted place where they can reclaim their sexuality. To find community and healing from postpartum depression, and to, once again, be the happy, sexy slutty women they were before the kids ruined everything.
As Brooke says, “I’m not here to sell sex toys…I’m here to make women feel beautiful.”
And she definitely does. One orgasm at a time.
SHOW NOTES
1:07 My first foray into porn, attending the LA Erotic Show
2:46 It all began with a cock ring and a dream…
3:45 What is Flirty Girl? A sex empowerment platform for moms.
4:21 Postpartum Depression and how getting over it was by exploring her sexuality again.
4:33 It all started when she talked about a cock ring at Gymboree.
5:01 None of my friends know what to buy. None of my friends know what to do…but they’re dying to.
5:35 How Flirty Girl was born.
5:52 The clash between sexuality and motherhood.
6:45 When you become a mom, you lose your identity.
7:36 Postpartum depression destroyed me.
7:57 A boudoir photo shoot showed me how sexy and dynamic I really am.
8:58 Doesn’t it suck that we’re being touched all day by little people and then our husbands come home and just want to get off on us?
9:17 If you’re going to go upstairs and have sex, then it better blow your mind.
9:27 You’re a mom. You’ve done mediocre crap all day long that you didn’t want to do. Sex should be the last place where you do stuff you don’t want to do.
9:43 How her phone blows up Sunday morning cause she’s making date night super sexy for thousands of moms.
11:00 How Flirty Girl Guide was born.
11:41 How she set up her first sex toy trunk show.
12:39 Sex sells.
13:21 I’m not here to sell sex toys.
14:04 Finding a distributor for her growing empire.
14:15 What it’s like to attend a sex toy trade show.
16:12 I don’t sell anything phallic.
16:54 Word of mouth built her business.
17:36 Her dream collaboration with Target.
17:51 Why she wants to make a special lingerie line just for moms.
18:35 Why all the sexy pictures of Brooke?
19:41 Worrying about how other people will think of her.
20:33 Flirty Girl’s favorite toys.
22:47 Why you need a clitoral suction device.
23:50 Flirty Girl’s favorite Dame products.
24:58 Will using a vibrator ruin you for toyless sex?
26:15 How women have been socialized to ignore our own pleasure.
26:50 How most straight women spend the first ten years of their sex lives focused entirely on male pleasure.
28:49 What is your Orgasm Gap?
29:10 Why our self-worth is tied to pleasing men and how that creates a lifetime of bad sex.
30:30 People are threatened by sexually liberated women.
31:57 What’s the trick to getting your male partner comfortable with your desire to use sex toys?
33:50 If your guy refuses to use a sex toy with you, he’s an asshole.
34:23 What happened when she ran out of lube and had to shop at a sketchy local sex store.
36:25 These women can trust me. I’m one of them.
36:37 If I could help a woman pick out a sex toy and make her feel really comfortable about it, and have great sex, then I did my job.
37:00 What she has planned for the future of Flirty Girl Guide.
37:35 Starting an erotic book club.
38:03 How women can pregame in order to get aroused.
39:22 If more women hear that they’re not alone and there are great solutions out there for them, there will be more happy women in the world.
40:17 Why your children will be happier if you and you partner are sexually in sync.
40:36 The porn sites that are better (or worse) for women.
41:24 Women are okay with porn, why don’t we create a curated site for women?
41:59 Why Brooke wants to be a madam in a brothel.
42:34 How to find her.
43:10 Brooke’s one wish for the future of sex.
MEMORABLE QUOTES
“Nobody talks about the nuclear bomb that goes off when sex and motherhood collide.”
“That’s where Flirty Girl was born out of. It was a Gymboree class and a cock ring.”
“It’s such a crap deal that when we push a kid out, suddenly we’re not allowed to be sexy anymore.”
“I can be a mother and make mac & cheese at 7 in the morning, but at 10 pm, I can have my husband call me a slut. And I’m still a good mom.”
“You’re a mom. You’ve done mediocre crap all day long that you didn’t want to do. So like sex should be the LAST place where you do stuff you don’t want to do.”
“Let’s just be honest, sex sells.”
“I’m not here to sell sex toys…I’m here to make women feel beautiful.”
“When your sex life is better…the rest of your life is pretty fucking awesome, too.”
“If your guy is threatened and he refuses to use a sex toy with you, you’re married to an asshole.”
“These women trust me. I’m one of them.”
“If I could help a woman pick out a sex toy and make her feel really comfortable about it, and have great sex, then I did my job.”